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Most people don’t know exactly what causes social awkwardness, but people can immediately spot it in social situations.

However, it’s more difficult to find out if you’re socially awkward.

That’s why I’m writing this article, and I’ll list 10 characteristics of social awkwardness to determine if you’ve had these experiences. Finally, you’ll learn really effective suggestions for overcoming this problem (compared to those that are common but useless).

Even if you are 10 all, do not be too discouraged, you are not a person and you have a great hope!

I know these characteristics because I used to be a very awkward person in social situations, but now I not only have a lot of social skills but also help a lot of other people to overcome this problem.

“Practice social skills—-6 ways to teach you to say goodbye to social embarrassment”

10 characteristics of social awkwardness

1. Feel nervous, uncomfortable, or out of place in a social setting. Usually what you feel in your heart will show in your behaviour, saying that enthusiasm is contagious, and so is the feeling of embarrassment

2. Be very careful not to break the “social rules”. You may not know exactly what these rules are, so you’ll be careful not to make mistakes.

3. Do everything will feel self-conscious (self-conscious) will anyone notice that I stand alone in this strange? Am I wearing too casual / too formal today?

4. I don’t know what to say. The funny thing is that you never know what to say when you’re around a good friend. However, whenever you meet a new friend or talk to someone you like, you feel like you have nothing to talk about.

5. Hesitancy and fear. You suddenly come up with a word but you suppress yourself from saying it, wondering if this is a good time. Then you wait too long to say that the topic is over.

6. The dialogue is not clear. When you’re talking, you can’t say what you think in a structured and structured way, often causing confusion between others.

7. Say the wrong thing at the wrong time. You may unann’t mind-to-say something stupid or offensive

8. When you are talking, people often ignore your remarks. The worst outcome is that if you’re often socially awkward in front of people, people may not take you seriously, or even avoid discussing it with you and find more confident and popular people.

9. Sometimes you know that you’ve done something wrong in a social setting that you can’t fit in, but the question is, you don’t know what you’re doing wrong and how to improve it?

“Practice social skills—-6 ways to teach you to say goodbye to social embarrassment”

10. Often playback some embarrassing clips before in your mind. But these replays won’t make it any easier for you to socialize in the future, just add some annoyance and regret

This 10 o’clock probably sums up the socially awkward experience. The more you have, the more socially awkward you become. (If you know there are other features, please indicate so in the comments)

What advice is not useful for alleviating social awkwardness?

Before I begin with my suggestions, I need to get a quick mention of some of the more common suggestions, whether you’ve heard them from a friend or found them in some articles, which are basically don’t work. Because these suggestions usually come from people who have never had problems with lack of conversation skills, low social confidence, or lack of friends.

1. Don’t worry, everyone is embarrassed at times!

It’s like telling an obese person, “Everyone can overly sometimes, even models.” This will not solve the essential problem at all

There are times when people who only feel a little embarrassed don’t come to see articles like this. It’s like someone who’s very embarrassed and already in pain will come out and ask for help.

2. People don’t pay attention to you at all!

Saying that this suggestion is useless may be a problem for many people because it is so common that it sounds reasonable.

Because for socially awkward people, it’s a problem to think that other people are looking at you and judging you. But that doesn’t mean telling you “don’t do this” will solve the problem.

This is to tell an obese person to “stop eating so much” rather than giving them advice on how to beat their psychological addiction, change bad habits, or have more nutritious recipes.

So what exactly is the advice that works?

So here are some suggestions that can actually help you overcome your social awkwardness!

2. “Tune” your social skills

Have you ever heard someone play the guitar that sounds like a walk-through, which might not sound good, or even sound like a nail-scratching blackboard? So it’s important to tune the guitar at a time.

This rule also applies to your social skills.

Have you ever experienced what you want to say but really say something that doesn’t exactly match what you think? Maybe you told a joke but no one thought it was funny. Or you make a comment that doesn’t fit the ongoing conversation, so it’s ignored.

The solution is to tone your social skills. Unfortunately, there is no shortcut to this approach. All you have to do is talk to others more. The best way is to break through your own bottlenecks.

I know this first suggestion is obvious but a lot of people forget about it and look for “magic shortcuts” to other social skills.

The people who are least embarrassed in social situations are those who often spend time talking to people. Think about the most outward-looking and attractive person you’ve ever met, and most of the time they’ll be the ones who spend a lot of time with each other throughout the day. When you spend a lot of time talking to people, you start to feel like you know what to say next. You don’t need to think about it, because you’ve done it so many times, and it spits straight out of your mouth.

It’s like playing a game or learning to type for the first time. At first, you may feel awkward and slow, but as time longer you become more skilled, you don’t need to think about where your fingers should be, they move, and you already have muscle memories. That’s the way very talkers talk, they move their mouths according to how they feel, they don’t have to think ahead about what they’re going to say, and they blurt it out.

Make sure you get out of your house often. Even a “normal” person would be embarrassed to walk into a social situation after watching a computer all day. If you are an intro direction, then you need to work harder to become more extra direction because you prefer to be alone, so you need to be determined to get out of your comfort zone.

You can “warm-up” to adjust your mindset before challenging social situations. What does that mean? If you need to go to a party, appointment, or interview today, do some simple warm-up before that, such as asking a stranger for a way to put yourself in a social state in advance.

Then the second point may feel a little strange

2. Think of people as mirrors (boost your self-confidence)

As I overcoming my social fears, I realized that people are actually a mirror. It’s your reflection. Let me explain…

When I often feel nervous and anxious in front of people, I find that they have a cautious attitude in front of me. Then it makes me more nervous, and this disgusting cycle can make it hard for you to find close friends.

On the other hand, when I become more relaxed and comfortable in front of people, they will let go.

“Practice social skills—-6 ways to teach you to say goodbye to social embarrassment”

People are like a mirror. Your inner feelings will reflect how others treat you.

If you feel nervous, anxious, restless, depressed, and sad when you’re talking to someone, they’ll feel it. They will feel these emotions in you and they will be affected.

In fact, scientific research has shown that there is a “mirror neuron” in the human brain that can help them build connections with others. This means that when you talk to people, they start to feel what you feel, and if you feel negative emotions and feeling uneasy about yourself, people subconsciously want to leave. (That’s probably why no one ever talks to me at school.) )

You can’t feel bad and want to cover it up. In fact, you need to really feel relaxed inside to reflect your relaxation. If you feel very bad, but you want to be happy and confident, then people will notice that you are disguising a look. It makes people think you’re weird.

3. What matters is not what you do, but how you do it

Everyone will have some awkward moments when they are thinking:

“Why did I just say that?” “

“Come on, no one laughs at the joke.”

“I don’t know what to say now, I need to say something now to end this silence”

The difference between a socially awkward person and a socially confident person is not much of an awkward moment. It’s just that confident people don’t focus on socially awkward moments, either externally or internally, and they let those moments pass and quickly forget them.

This means you need to give up your habit of grabbing some embarrassing things you say. Whether it’s 10 seconds, 10 days, 10 months, or 10 years ago, the past is over, there’s no way to change it, life goes on.

4. Learn to apologize for your social mistakes

Socially awkward people will be very careful not to violate any invisible social rules. Although we don’t know exactly what these rules are, we think that once we break them or say the wrong thing, we’re done, people won’t like us, job interviewers will laugh at us, we’ll be alone all our lives, and so on. 

Nothing could be further from the truth.

But that is far from true.

On the contrary, over-hesitation, fear, and over-carefulness not to offend others are the reasons that make you embarrassed and uninterested in yourself. So here’s how we can fix this.

What do people do when they make a mistake in a social setting? They will apologize and continue. If you say something strange or offensive to someone, just say, “Sorry, that’s not what I wanted to say!” “Then you move on to something else.”

When experienced, you’ll know that you can handle occasional errors and gaffes. And it will give you more confidence. You’ll feel like you’re not so embarrassed by the sudden and untimely things you say. This will make it easier for you to speak boldly and more usually. Of course, this does not happen overnight and requires a long learning process.

5. Allow yourself to be imperfect

If you’re afraid of being rejected by a girl and afraid to talk to her in a social setting, I recommend a practice for you:

Don’t try how to “do it well”. Instead, see how bad you can be. See how embarrassed you can be with yourself. Challenge yourself, the more awkward the better.

I’ve done this exercise many times. Do you know? When a person no longer has the pressure to “do it well”, allow embarrassing things to happen and laugh at it. They would have done better.

I used to be a shy person who said hello to girls, but now I can touch girls more boldly and confidently, because I don’t care about getting embarrassed, so I’m not careful anymore

Isn’t that funny?

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