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The following psychological tests can help determine if you have any factors that may cause BPD (borderline personality disorder). Answering the following questions honestly can help you determine if you need to consult a psychologist.

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1.I often feel abandoned because of the words and deeds of my parents (lovers, children, friends).

2. Strive not to be abandoned by others, or even go crazy (such as crying, self-abuse, etc.).

3. The friends I just met are very simple. After a long time, I feel that they can’t accept me.

4. Often feel unbearable loneliness.

5. Emotions are highly volatile and stable emotions do not last for several hours.

6. Unable to control anger, easy to have spats or physical conflict with people.

7. Repeatedly use self-harm to obtain relief or pleasure.

8. Often threaten or ask for help in the face of suicide.

9. At least two definitions of self-image, gender orientation, long-term goals or career choices, types of friends who prefer to interact, and value preferences are unclear.

10. Long-term feeling empty and boring.

11. Low self-esteem, often disappointment, helplessness and weakness.

12. New things are often resistant and pessimistic.

13. Stubbornness.

14. No one is in sight.

15. It is difficult to communicate with authoritative figures.

16. Oversensitive to criticism, it is easy to feel despised and ignored.

17. There is a history of courting others.

18. Self-blame.

19. Over-vigilance and over-sensitivity to surrounding insecurity.

20. Unjustified fear and confusion.

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Evaluation criteria:

The above 20 topics, 1 to 10 entitled the overall characteristics of borderline personality disorder;

11 to 15 subtype characteristics entitled way-type marginal personality disorder;

16 to 20 subtype characteristics entitled self-destructive marginal personality disorder.

If you answer “yes” to a certain item, you should worry about yourself. If two “yess” are answered, it is recommended that you consult a psychologist immediately.

Patients with borderline personality disorder care more about their impressions of others, their relationships with others, and their performance.


People with borderline disorders often feel uncertain about who they are. As a result, their self-impression or self-awareness often change rapidly. Usually, they think they are evil or bad, and sometimes they may feel that they don’t exist at all. This unstable self-impression can lead to frequent job changes, friends, goals, values, and gender awareness.

Relationships are often turbulent, and patients with a borderline personality disorder often have a love-hate experience with others, and they may idealize a person at some point and then suddenly turn sharply to anger and hatred, which is more than contempt or even misunderstanding. This is due to the hard-to-accept grey areas of such patients — only black and white. For example, in the eyes of people with a borderline personality disorder, a person is either good or evil. The same person can also be evil one day at a time.

Also, patients with borderline personality disorders often engage in impulsive and risky behaviours. This behaviour often hurts them, whether emotionally, financially or physically. For example, they may drive recklessly, engage in unsafe sex, use illegal drugs, or go on a feverish consumption or gambling. Patients with borderline personality disorder often commit suicide or self-harm to relax their emotions.

Other signs and symptoms of this type of personality disorder include:

1. Intense emotional ups and downs frequency

2. Intense but brief episodes of anxiety or depression

3. Inappropriate anger, sometimes escalating into physical conflict

4. Fear of loneliness


Clinical performance

The clinical manifestations of people with borderline personality disorder are mainly as follows:

First, self-identity is a disorder. Lack of self-purpose and sense of self-worth, low self-esteem, to things like “Who am I?”, “What kind of person am I?”, “Where am I going?” Such questions lack thought and answers. This disorder of self-identity often begins with puberty, while patients with borderline personality disorder clearly lag behind self-identity, stay in the chaotic stage for a long time, and their self-image is inconsistent and contradictory. This is reflected in the contradictions and conflicts in their lives.

Second, unstable, rapidly changing moods. Patients tend to have strong anxiety and are prone to wobbling between anger, sadness, shame, panic, fear and excitement, and a sense of almightiness. Often surrounded by long-term, chronic, pervasive feelings of emptiness and loneliness. The state of mind is characterized by rapid change. Especially in the event of stress events, patients are highly susceptible to brief seizures of nervous anxiety, irritability, panic, despair, and anger. However, their mood often lacks the persistent sadness, guilt and infectiousness characteristics of depression, nor do they have biological characteristics such as early awakening and weight loss.

The third, significant separation anxiety. They are described as “taking the umbilical cord into life, always looking for a place to pick it up.”

Very afraid of loneliness and being abandoned. Extremely sensitive to abandonment and separation, and do everything possible to avoid separation scenarios, such as begging or even suicide threats. Fear of loneliness, lack of self-comforting ability, often need to stimulate sexual behaviour and substances such as alcohol, promiscuity, drug use, etc. to drain the empty loneliness.


Fourth, the intimacy of conflict. They swing between two extremes in an intimate relationship. On the one hand, very dependent on each other, on the other hand, always quarrel with people close to them. One will feel that the other side of the world first, and one will say the other side a penny is not worth. Repeated relationships break down and conflicts continue in relationships. People who get along with them often feel tired, but they can’t get out.


Fifth, impulsivity. Common impulsive behaviours are alcoholism, profligacy, gambling, theft, substance abuse, greed, lewdness, etc. Between 50% and 70% of patients had impulsive self-destruction and suicide, and 8 to 10% of patients had successful suicide. It is a disease with a high suicide rate. Sudden rage, destruction, fighting and swearing are also common impulsive behaviours.


Sixth, stress psychotic symptoms. In stress situations, it is prone to personality disintegration, implicating ideas such as transient or situational illusions or hallucinations that appear to have a realistic basis, generally these symptoms

Relatively mild, short-lived, mental stress can be relieved quickly, antipsychotic drugs are also effective.

Key points of counselling (for adolescent boys):

l. To carry out the physical and psychological education of adolescence so that they can correctly understand themselves, their own external changes and psychological changes. Boys entering puberty should not only be limited to understanding certain external characteristics and manifestations of their physical behaviour, but also encourage them to constantly ask themselves and reflect independently, improve themselves, and devote their energies to learning and success.

2. Carry out various forms of amateur literature and sports activities, so that adolescent boys in the body to find a normal release channel of energy. Also, cultivate a variety of hobbies and interests, so that their sentiment is edifying, to grow up healthy.

3. Conduct in-depth and detailed psychological interviews to get them to deal with setbacks correctly. Life in the world will have one or the other setbacks, to face setbacks, sum up experience, find the cause of setbacks and analysis, rather than a setback on the act of attack. Develop their resilience through various means and be able to take positive and constructive measures against setbacks.

 4. Sand tray or painting technology to help patients overcome the impulse of behaviour and the integration of the inner subconscious.

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