Many people are convinced that off-site love will never work out well. Your family doesn’t encourage you, and some of your best friends might advise you not to take it too seriously in case you hurt or hurt yourself.
No one says it’s easy to fall in love – the extra distance makes a lot of things possible. Things can get complicated, and sometimes you feel sad and lonely.
However, the extra distance also makes the simplest things sweetest, being able to grab each other’s hands, eat together on the same table, feel each other’s touch, walk together, smell each other’s hair… These little wishes can suddenly mean a lot, especially in off-site love.
Off-site love can be difficult, but you can also have your own surprises. To keep your love fresh and lasting, here are 21 suggestions to help you maintain a relationship:
21 tips for long-distance relationships 1. Avoid excessive communication.
Excessive “sticky people” and too strong possessive desires are unwise. You two don’t actually have to communicate for 12 hours a day to maintain a relationship. Many lovers think they need to make up for the distance by doing more. That’s not good. It may only make things worse. Maybe soon you’ll get tired of “love”.
Remember: less is more. It’s not spam – you just exhaust yourself. It’s really about tying at the right moment and pulling in the right place (perhaps understood as physical contact).
“If you want to live together, then you first need to learn how to live separately.”
Think of it as a learning trip for both of you. Think of it as a test of love for each other. As an old Chinese saying goes, “True gold is not afraid of fire.” Instead of believing that this long-distance relationship will separate you, you should believe that through this experience and experience, you will be more connected and your connection will become stronger as a result.
As Emma says to Will in the fourth season of The Joy Choir,
“I’d rather be here and away from you, but it feels very close to you, not close to you, but it feels really far away.”
21 tips for long-distance relationships 3. Work together to develop some basic principles to manage your expectations of each other.
In this off-site love affair, both of you need to be clear about what you expect of each other. Set some basic principles so that those of you don’t do anything that surprises the other person.
For example, do you two belong to each other? Can the other person date? What is your level of commitment? It would be nice if you could talk openly about all these things and be open to them.
4. Try to communicate creatively regularly.
Say “good morning” and “good night” to each other every day – it’s a must. Most importantly, try to update your partner’s perception of your life and what’s going on, even though these things may seem monotonous and unusual.
To start the game, send pictures, audio clips, and video clips of each other from time to time. By putting in this effort, you can make the person you love feel loved and cared for.
21 tips for long-distance relationships 5. Talk to each other about the smudges. (Dirty talk)
Sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between lovers. Libido is like glue so that neither side will be separated. Sex is not only a physiological need but also an emotional need.
Keep love burning by sending provocative texts full of sexual innuendo and seductive descriptions. Sometimes some sexy puns work well.
Avoid “dangerous” situations.
If you already know that going to a club or going to a late-night drink with your friends will make your partner unhappy, you should not do so or tell your partner in advance to reassure him or her.
Don’t be careless about this kind of thing, because your partner will only be particularly worried or more suspicious, and of course, very upset and depressed, because you put him or her in a position where he or she feels powerless or out of control.
Also, you can easily fall into a trap, either unconsciously or unconsciously, by hanging out with vases in your office after work, or by going out with a girl or boy you’ve been flirting with in the past. Before you get into this situation, you need to recognize the red flag.
Don’t just listen to your heart. Listen to your thoughts, too.
21 tips for long-distance relationships 7. Do something together.
You can play online games together. Watch a documentary on YouTube or Vimeo at the same time. When one of you plays the guitar, sing to each other on Skype. Take a walk outside while talking to each other on video. Go shopping online together – buy gifts for each other (see s13).
You really have to be creative and spontaneous about this.
8. Do similar things together.
Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news, etc. to each other. As you read, watch, and listen to the same things, you can have more common topics to discuss.
Even if you’re separated, it’s a great way to create some shared experiences.
9. Meet each other.
The meeting is the highlight of every off-site love affair.
After all the waiting, longing, and restraint, you can finally meet and achieve all the little things, such as kissing, holding hands, and so on. These are all things that other lovers do, but for off-site lovers, it’s a very special and unusually intimate little thing.
You’ll feel fireworks, glittering bombs, confetti, rainbows and flying butterflies everywhere.
10. Set a goal in mind.
“What do we want to achieve at the end of the day?” “How long are we going to be apart?” “What’s the future?” These are the questions you two need to ask yourself.
The truth is, no couple can ever be in a long-distance relationship. In the end, we all need to settle down.
So work with each other to make your own plan. Set a schedule, mark the estimated time apart and the time together, and plot the final goal.
Both of you must share the same goals and agree on them. So even if you don’t live in the same space and the same time zone, you two still have the motivation to work together in the same direction toward a future that includes each other.
Yes, you need the motivation to keep the relationship going.
You may be lonely, but you are not alone unless you choose to feel that way. You don’t have to let your world run around your partner – you still have you, your friends and your family. Take this time out alone and do more with friends and family. Go to the gym often. Have a new hobby. Binge show to watch the show. You can have a lot of things to do without your partner joining you.
12. Be honest with each other.
Talk about your fear, insecurity, jealousy, and indifference, no matter what. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will engulf you from the inside out sooner or later. Don’t try to handle everything yourself. Be honest and honest with each other. Ask your partner to help you and provide you with the support you need. It is better to observe the problem at the initial stage than to disclose it frankly only too late.
13. Understand each other’s schedules.
Know when the other person is busy and when he or she is free, so you can send a text or make calls at the right time. Believe me, you don’t want to disturb your partner while he or she is in class or a business meeting. Learn about small or big events that are happening or will happen in each other’s lives, such as mid-college and exams, important business trips and meetings, job interviews, and more. This is especially important when you two live in different time zones.
14. Track each other’s social media activity.
Like photos of each other on Facebook and Instagram. Twitter each other. Mark each other. Share things on each other’s walls. Show that you care about each other. Keep cool when it’s about sneaking in on each other.
15. Give the other person a personal item as a gift that can be preserved.
A tiny souvenir has a lot of energy. Whether it’s a small pendant, ring, key foder, song and video set, or a bottle of perfume. We often give meaning to the little things and things we find in our daily lives, whether we are conscious or not. That’s what we all do – we try to store memories in physical objects, hoping that when our thoughts/memories let us down, we can see or capture things that help us remember. That’s why something as simple as that means so much to one person, and others may see little or no value in it.
16. Send software with good news.
This is extremely important because texting is the most frequent and common form of communication that you two can have. You need to use a good messaging app on your phone that allows interactions other than words and emojis.
Personally, I use this messaging app called LINE. I find it very effective because it has a lot of interesting and very interesting “stickers” that can be used for free by users. You can also go to the app’s “Sticker Shop” to download (or give away!) at a low price. Extra stickers on different topics (e.g. Hello Kitty, Pokemon, Snoopy, MARVEL, etc.). The app also offers free sticker sets for different promotions from time to time. This message sending app is cute and easy to learn to use.
17. Mail your gift to the post office.
Mail postcards and handwritten love letters. From time to time across the earth to send gifts to each other. Send flowers to each other on birthdays, anniversaries and Valentine’s Day. Dressed in cool T-shirts, sexy lingerie and so on to shop online and surprise each other.
Maintain a positive attitude.
You need to keep injecting positive energy into long-distance relationships to keep them alive. Yes, waiting can be painful, and you may feel lonely sometimes, but you need to remind yourself that the final fruit will be as sweet as being in heaven.
A good way to maintain a positive attitude is to always have a heart of gratitude. Thank you for have someone you love – and someone who loves you too. Thanks for the little things, such as the handwritten letter that arrived safely in the mailbox the other day. Thanks to each other for remaining healthy and safe.
19. Keep each other’s friends and family up to date.
Because gossip and scandal are always the best things to do to keep going, don’t care, you need to care about each other’s family and friends because they are the ones who are more important to you. Those gossips, just go with them. Don’t care about things that don’t matter.
20. Make video calls as much as possible when possible.
Because looking into each other’s eyes and hearing each other’s voices can restore everything to its original condition and keep it safe.
21. Give the other person a love name.
Because it’s cute. It keeps love fresh and pleasantly surprising.