Rape is a vicious act that seriously harms the personal rights of the victim, and the perpetrator should be severely punished, both legally and morally. The injured party should be given multiple physical and psychological protection, to help them out of the shadows as soon as possible.
In this way, rape seems difficult to be associated with sexiness and lust. Talking about or thinking about rape and things like that should be scary and resistant.
In fact, however, many girls like to fantasize about being raped or forced to have sex in a safe environment and to get the pleasure of being shy.
If you’re one of them, don’t be shy.
Rape fantasies must be viewed separately from the rape itself.
A woman’s rape fantasy is a kind of sexual fantasy. Sexual fantasy is the idea of a series of images or specific patterns that can cause or increase sexual excitement.
Sexual fantasies can be created out of the mind, or they can be a memory, or they can be a plot derived from an erotic work; a particular object, body part, or a sexually attractive person can also inspire a sexual fantasy.
Sexual fantasy is a cross-cultural, cross-national and small couple that everyone does.
Leitenberg, H. and Hening, K., professors of psychology at the University of Vermont, believe that sexual fantasy is at the center of all human fantasies. We often carry out all kinds of fantasies, do some about the rich ah, overnight success, the spirits of drift such dreams, sexual fantasies as normal as these dreams.
The difference is that publicity is chasable, objective, and external, and that sex requires brain involvement, which is called “sex is mostly made up of fiction and fantasy”.
Not to be strict, but people’s brains, at least as important as genitalia, are “sex organs.” Experienced people understand that when you have sex, what you think in your head will improve or decrease your sexual experience.
So you don’t have to be ashamed to have any sexual fantasies. After all, it’s in your head, who can enforce the law into your head?
The same is true of rape fantasies. Like all sexual fantasies, it’s full of strange, unsealable things, but like all sexual fantasies, we don’t carry out every sexual fantasy, rape fantasy and rape itself, two completely different things.
The meaning of “rape” in rape fantasy is more extensive. In addition to the insertion of sexual organs in the legal sense without the consent of the person concerned, fantasy is coerced, obscenity or any sexually related act of coercion can be counted as a rape fantasy.
So what do girls usually fantasize about when they fantasize about being raped?
In 1973, Dr. Hariton E.B. of the University of Florida’s School of Social Studies noted that men in rape fantasies are usually “faceless” and that girls don’t imagine a specific person, they only imagine a passionate and brave man. Also, they fantasize about their weak resistance, imagine that they are unconscious, or tied up, or drugged.
That is, in Hamilton’s rape fantasy, women only have symbolic resistance, or can not resist (drug, etc.), while raping them, is a satisfactory handsome man, he provides “force” is also relatively light, not too hurtful content.
This fantasy usually leads to high levels of sexual arousal and even to their reach.
In 1976, Molly Haskell, a prominent feminist film critic, tried to explain a woman’s rape fantasies. She believes that if women imagine rape in real life, they will only feel fear, not sexual arousal.
In other words, rape fantasies can be divided into two situations: one that scares girls and the other that excites girls. In the terrifying rape fantasy, they are usually raped by an ugly, horrible male, but in the exciting fantasy, they actually have sex with a fit man.
A woman’s rape fantasy is a spectrum of fear aversion to the excitement, fear and excitement are two ends of the spectrum, and all kinds of rape fantasies fall into this spectrum.
Bivona, J., and Critelli, professors of psychology at the University of North Texas. In their study, subjects were asked to rate their rape fantasies and found that total fear and nausea accounted for 9% of the total, totally exciting rape fantasies accounted for 45% of the total, and the rest made the subjects feel both disgusting and excited.
Rape fantasy sounds so surprising, so how many girls have owned it?
In fact, this data is not only difficult to collect but also has rape fantasies, the illusion that the overbearing president is forced to have sex with women may be higher than the known data.
One reason is that it’s hard to rule out social approval in all psychological surveys, and sisters may lie when they fill out questionnaires for fear of being seen the other way. This effect is evident in the investigation of rape fantasies, but over time and the liberation of sexual attitudes, more and more women admit to having rape fantasies.
Also, when investigators use the word “rape”, girls often choose to avoid and deny it, but it is much easier to admit it if they choose to be “forced”.
In a study published in the 1980s, the average number of women who admitted to having a rape fantasy was around 42 percent, rising to 55 percent by the 1990s. In the previously mentioned study of Bevan and Critley, 62 percent of the girls who admitted to having a rape fantasy were the subjects.
Meanwhile, in the 1990s, more than 20 percent of women had a rape fantasy in the last three months. In an online survey published in 2006, 10 percent of women admitted to having more than one rape fantasy a month.
Look, it’s very common, so if you see that you’re too shy to blush, or feel like you’ve done something wrong, it’s really not necessary.
So, in real life, painful and angry rape, why do girls have such sexual fantasies about it?
In this regard, scholars give two more widely accepted explanations:
First, for women, especially girls who are less open and free in their sexual and sexual fantasies, “forced” can reduce their sense of shame and guilt.
Many girls are ashamed to talk about sex and to engage in sexual fantasies, at least in rape fantasies, where the sexual activity she performs is not entirely consensual and the responsibility is shifted, and she is relieved.
Second, rape fantasy naturally has a passionate, open, exciting nature. To carry out this type of fantasy in a safe way can enjoy its intensity and thrill without having to face its evil and terrible side.
Other researchers have expressed other views. A study published in 1992 suggested that girls’ rape fantasies may be caused by watching erythemal works when they are young and have not yet experienced sex. Many erythrose works are keen to place women in a passive, at the mercy of others, and they are therefore implied that rape fantasies become their first sexual fantasies.
Tiffany also points out that owning and accepting her own rape fantasies is related to the girl’s own personality traits. Girls with high self-esteem, openness to sex and sensitivity are more likely to accept their own rape fantasies and are more likely to have rape fantasies.
In short, girls do not have to be ashamed or anxious about their rape fantasies, and real rape perpetrators must not justify themselves under the pretext that “girls fantasize about being raped”.
There is a strict line between fantasy and reality, and no one has the right to cross it.
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