Earlier, a Malaysian mother sparked a heated debate after sharing intimate photos of herself having a baby on social media.
(Photo: AsiaWire/Doreen Ching)
Her name is Doreen Ching, and although she is young, she is already a mother of quadruplets.
She looks pretty well recovered in the photo, but her belly photo can be described as “scary”:
(Photo: AsiaWire/Doreen Ching)
Many people were shocked when they saw Doreen’s picture and felt that their mother had worked so hard. There were also many who attacked her as “disgusting” and others who thought she could only be blamed for having quadruplets.
People will comment because it’s not clear how much impact having a baby has on a woman’s body.
But in fact, stretch marks are only one of the basic effects, and it’s more about genes than having fewer children to avoid.
After having a baby, my abdomen is still hard and big.
Sarah Carwood was a former BBC presenter.
After giving birth to the first child, she lost weight, but her stomach was as big as it was a few months into her pregnancy. It looks like it’s weird:
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And the belly is wrinkled.
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It wasn’t until she was pregnant with her second child that the midwife told her that she had severe abscess separation (Diastasis Recti) and needed rehabilitation exercises.
Abdominal straight muscles in front of the abdomen, usually what we call “eight abs” refers to them, they are connected to our chest, ribs, down to our pelvis, by the fascia wrapped, connected.
In pregnancy, in order to accommodate the fetal body gradually become bigger, the abdomen will continue to grow bigger.
(Photo credit: Make Room for Baby from YOU! The Experience)
This stretches the skin, muscles, and fascia of the abdomen, and when the stretch exceeds a certain limit, the fibers of the skin and muscle tissue break, causing the abs to separate to varying degrees.
Many women like Sara mistakenly think that their small stomach is too fat, desperately doing flat support, sitting on their backs, which makes the symptoms worse.
“After having a baby, I’ve been in pain for 2 years.”
When Jenny Baldwin was four months pregnant, the roots of her lower back and thighs began to ache violently. She turned to her midwife for help and was told it was a “shame bone pain” that pregnant women had to worry about.
“Shame bone” is the pelvic floor is a triangular support of the two bones, that is, the sister near the hard bones. The “shame bone union” is to connect the ligaments, cartilage and other tissues between them:
When pregnant, the human body will bear the enormous pressure of the fetus, change body shape, which will break the body’s original physical balance, in order to achieve a new balance, the position of the pelvis, spinal curvature may change, some joints will be misplaced.
Coupled with hormones such as “relaxation” and “progesterone” secreted by the body during pregnancy, the ligaments of the joints become loose, and some joints are slightly separated.
(Photo source: From the Hong Kong Department of Health film “Prenatal and Postnatal Care Classroom: Nursing of joint and cheekbone combined pain”)
This causes tear-like pain when you stand up, roll over, and walk because you pull into the cheekbones and pelvic joints. Especially when lifting a leg, it can hurt life.
If the delivery time is too long, the fetus is longer, it will further damage the ligaments of the cheekbone joint.
Jenny is most obviously going up and down the stairs. On one occasion, when she went to see her mother, she even felt as if she was paralysed, and couldn’t lift her legs at all. Later, she even stood up very hard, housework and baby room decoration to her husband.
Finally to “unload”, doctors and midwives say usually after the birth of a child. Jenny was so convinced of this that she was over-delighted.
However, until the end of her five-month lactation period, until her son was 1 year old, until 2 years later, she was still suffering from pain.
“So my mom would do the same.”
Netizen JZ has opened a post on Weibo, let the women who have given birth to chat about what they have experienced.
Underneath the post, almost half of them are: leaking urine, vaginal wall puffing out.
Most of these problems are related to “basin muscles”.
The pelvic floor muscle is at the bottom of the pelvis, it is like a hanging meat pocket, firmly around your urethra, bladder, vagina, uterus, rectum, etc., to provide them with support.
If these muscle groups are overstretched, they and nearby soft tissues can be injured, eventually causing the pelvic floor muscles to be too strong to hold the organs, resulting in leakage of urine, vaginal delapse and even uterine delapse.
(Photo: Continence Foundation of Australia)
In pregnancy and child-natal, women constantly stretch or even tear their pelvic floor muscles, whether by caesarean section or by birth.
Therefore, many mothers may have urine leakage problems.
It’s just that moms may not know that having a baby is the cause, and they don’t know how to talk to someone.
Yes, stars and supermodels may still be brilliant after having children, but ordinary people have to pay a lot of sacrifices, experience a lot of pain, face a lot of difficult problems, some problems may be medically able to solve, some can not.
Therefore, really hope that boys in order to love, girls for their own, can fully understand all aspects of fertility, and then choose to have children. When you run into problems like this, you’re not so overwhelmed.
I also sincerely hope that every mother can get more understanding and support, you are great.
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